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“No room for Self-Pitty :Embracing Personal Empowerment



Hey there, I trust you are well and at your best. If not, I hope you are giving yourself grace to feel and acknowledge every profound emotion. How often do we allow ourselves to feel in a room full of people celebrating when you are not? How do we even differentiate between envy and disappointment? How do you move with an optimistic mind in a world where your friend or friends are flourishing? The answer to all these questions is trusting the timing. We often want to have things at a specific time and pressure ourselves because of social media and everything in between. Trust me, you are not wrong to scroll and desire it for yourself, but the problem starts when you undermine your season.


We spend so many years feeling unfulfilled only because we don’t want to embrace every forthcoming moment. We focus so much on the “what could I have done?” over thoughts like “how best can I ensure I do my part to not be where I was.” Oftentimes, we don’t self-pity or self-sabotage because we want to, but because our thoughts are uncontrollable. There’s so much more to life than failure or a missed opportunity. Our only hope is that we can always try again, and there’s always going to be another opportunity. Grand and even better—who 


If we choose to see life through the lens of hope and an optimistic mindset, we wouldn’t stay long feeling down and unworthy. The most powerful thing I learned during my writing and emerging from my cave season was that you decide how you want to view yourself, and you have no control over how people see you. This came from people-pleasing; you oppress yourself so much over what people think about you and start feeling pity with them while the solution isn’t going to come from feeling depressed and ashamed. This world is not going to wait for you to be alright. It’s okay to cry and feel a little down or take in the emotions, but that’s not going to solve all problems.


Jump out of that bed or dark space .Look in the mirror and tell yourself that if you’ve made it to the mirror and you still breathing then the opportunity’s are beyond infinite.The most enough motivation is the fact that you breathing which means there’s grace to try again today.Theres grace to be your best and there’s so much grace to push beyond limits.You so cable .No one else will make you feel best unless you start believing in yourself people validation and reassurance should be an addition to your motivation but not what you wait for to do amzing.God sees you.He wouldn’t be so generous with the gift of time if he didn’t wanna see you do your best.Now shock the world and make yourself even more proud.You are well able and undeniably worthy of what ever it is that you’re setting your mind too.

Bye bye self pity 


With love 

Miss Valeria M

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