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Farewell to people pleasing.

Hello to you my faithful reader .Im so appreciative of your consistency and how you get excited everytime I post on this blog.I just wanna acknowledge you .Not many take the time you took to just come in here and read.I admire you so much for choosing this blog as your escape.


Well on the other side of today’s topic. I actually woke up with such a heavy heart and that’s because I think a lot.Not to say I’m stressed .Yet in most cases I’m always in my head. It’s a bouns on most days because I’m self aware .Yet , it’s traumatic how I can identify every single thing happening and why it’s happening like that.Not to sound like a prophet but what I’m basically trying to say is that I’m well able to trace back every emotion and yes it can be helpful. The sad part of it is that it can be traumatic .Imagine being traumatised by your own thoughts.Very ,very questionable ? One of the major causes of my post anxiety was actually living up to people’s expectations.I barely had the desire to meet my own expectations except what others thought was best for me. Suprising isn’t it ? I always grew up in a bubble and often was a “yes girl” without asking myself questions like will you really be able to do that? Are you sure you will have that time ? 


Now that I’m actually all grown .I am very much strict in asking myself such questions because the least thing I wanna do is to be worried and panicking all because I couldn’t say no.Although I  didn’t wake up overnight and attain this.It definitely took a lot of courage.It took a lot of sitting down and understanding that I deserve to actually make decisions and stand on them.I realised that being too available and too friendly can have a number of people abusing how you  actually do this life thing .I hope you getting the picture I’m trying to paint. I only learnt that in isolation.This word makes it sound like I was in a lonely space or some awuful season.Yet this was a life changing period as I drew near to God.


Actually, that was the best season of my life .I took time to just allow God to prune me.I identified a lot of things I was idolising and worshipping unaware . I learn’t the importance of prayer and reading my bible.I am nolonger to dependent on peoples opions about me . Doing all this and being closer to God exposed how I was so obsessed with being relevant and cool.I am fully enough and appreciative of being trusted by God to love and be bold to be myself again every single day. Moral of the story is that , as we grow it is important to let go of living up to peoples standard and seek your identification from God.Establishing a relationship with God is not something to take lightly as its a daily doze of life especially to us belivers .You are well able to live and breath without comparing yourself with others when you spend and seek yourself from Gods word and praying always!


With Love

Miss V

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